Parenting Advice From Your Therapist

There are so many places to get parenting advice. Your friends, your doctors, your mother, everyone has something to say about the best way to raise a kid. I don't claim to have a monopoly on advice but I do have a unique perspective that is informed by both my training and my years of watching the results of all sorts of parenting decisions as they play out in people's lives.

Soldiers, Grief and Operational Stress Injury

Like many people, I have found the reports of the recent suicides of 4 members of the Canadian Forces to be profoundly upsetting. Each of these men decided to devote themselves to an occupation that requires what they call “absolute liability”. That’s the fancy term for “you could die as part of your job requirement”. They all accepted that as one of the terms but I know they didn’t accept or consent that the death would be at their own hands. 

Fitness as a Relational Activity (Or, Only When You are Watching) (Guest Post)

Rebloged from my friend Samantha Brennan’s Blog: Fit Feminist and (almost) Fifty. Thanks for the opportunity to Guest!

I have a sedentary job. In that way, I am not unique to the millions of others who spend far too much time sitting still in an improper posture. About 10 years ago, I started a very slow crawl out of my consistently sedentary ways and into something that approaches an active life.

It’s Worth It

Lots of the time, I don’t get to see concrete results of what I do. When I see my personal trainer, it’s all about the results. We create baselines and track progress. I am accountable to the goals and expected to reflect on them occasionally. It’s very structured.

Psychotherapy can have the same sort of structure. People who come to me with what we might call smaller or more compartmentalized sorts of problems need that structure to keep on track and be efficient about the work. I’m alright with that.

A New Community Service for First Responders and CF Members

A friend of mine who is a therapist in Kitchener/Waterloo came up with a wonderful idea that, in her own small way, addresses the gaps in service for First Responders (Police, EMS, Firefighters) and Canadian Forces Personnel. While these folks notionally have access to psychological service through their employers, the ethos and stigma associated with asking for help makes it difficult to obtain what they require.

It Bears Repeating

I wrote a post a few years ago about This Time of Year and I thought I would re-post because I still really like it.

Warning, it ‘aint your average Christmas Happy.

This Time of Year, is weighted with a nearly inconceivable number of expectations, traditions, possibilities, hopes, tragedies…it just doesn’t stop. It is exactly that weight (and its impacts) I wish to discuss.

Owning it

Today I want to talk about the importance of ownership in relationship. By relationship, I mean all sorts, intimate, business, parental, friendships, even enemies for that matter. By ownership, I mean identifying and communicating the role we play in an event or relationship interaction.

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