My Blog: Taking Care of Your Emotional Health

The Time of Year

This may not be the post you are expecting.

This Time of Year, is weighted with a nearly inconceivable number of expectations, traditions, possibilities, hopes, tragedies…it just doesn’t stop. It is exactly that weight (and its impacts) I wish to discuss.

I am now going to speak the unspeakable…for many people, this is a profoundly unhappy Time of Year. If you aren’t one of those people, that is fantastic but if you are, you need to know, you are not the only one. I might even venture to say that this Time of Year is unhappy for something approaching most of us.

Subjectivity and Objectivity

At the risk of being overly theoretical, I feel the need to write this post.

There is a vast difference between the “subjective” and the “objective” as it relates to work in psychotherapy.  And yet, many folks haven’t really considered what the differences are and why we need to pay attention.

Let me first define my understanding of these terms as I use them here. 


I have come to believe that this is the scariest darn word in the English language.  It is also one of the most powerful.

In the context of what I do for a living, authenticity means being true to one’s nature or true to one’s self.  If you just think about that for half a second, you realize that being “true” to anything requires that you know what that thing is in the first place.

Another Fantastic Workshop Provider

The following was copied from Lucy Becker, a wonderful Tantrica of my acquaintance.  The intro to Tantra she’s advertising here is a modified version of her full weekend course which I can confirm is well worth it.

Her approach links Spirit, Energy and Sexuality in enriching and healing ways.  It is far more than a technical review of the Karma Sutra. 

If you miss this one, I recommend contacting her about the next!


A Worthwhile Workshop

I am posting this to promote a colleague’s work in Milton. 


Our relationships have the capacity to be “heaven on earth” and “a  living hell” catapulting us to the brink of despair.  When a relationship challenges us is when we get to reveal how we “show up” in life – resistant, shut down, collapsed, sad, demanding, needy, angry, scared, defensive, etc…  It is in these moments that relationships offer us an opportunity to deepen in connection with ourselves and the person with whom we are experiencing difficulty.  

What we say and what we mean: The dangers of indirect communication

It may have come through your mail box, a “joke” email that purports to translate “woman speak” into something comprehensible for all you clueless men out there.  Some of my favourites are:

FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use “fine” to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of “those” arguments.

What’s New? EMDR!

I am very excited to be able to tell you about my most recent training. 

EMDR-What is it?

EMDR is an acronym that stands for “Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing”.  It is an evidence based, empirically proven technique for addressing all manner of emotional trauma and upset. 

The Relevance of Groundhog Day to Counselling

Do any of you out there remember the 1993 movie starring Bill Murray that involved a man living the same day over and over and over again?  He kept making the same mistakes, encountering the same problems and ending up the same way until he finally figured out how to live in a better way, differently than he had in the past.  Only then, was he allowed to move on to the next day of his life.

Hard Journeys

Yup.  The first thing I thought when I took a look again at the topics of my last SNAP Milton column was, “Damn that stuff is hard to deal with.”

Every week folks come into my office with these very issues, at their wits’ end about how to untangle the mess they have either created or fallen into (or perhaps a little of both).


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