My Blog: Taking Care of Your Emotional Health

I am posting this to promote a colleague’s work in Milton. 

A ONE DAY RELATIONSHIP INTENSIVE FOR COUPLES   

Our relationships have the capacity to be “heaven on earth” and “a  living hell” catapulting us to the brink of despair.  When a relationship challenges us is when we get to reveal how we “show up” in life – resistant, shut down, collapsed, sad, demanding, needy, angry, scared, defensive, etc…  It is in these moments that relationships offer us an opportunity to deepen in connection with ourselves and the person with whom we are experiencing difficulty.  

It may have come through your mail box, a “joke” email that purports to translate “woman speak” into something comprehensible for all you clueless men out there.  Some of my favourites are:

FINE: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up. Never use “fine” to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of “those” arguments.

I am very excited to be able to tell you about my most recent training. 

EMDR-What is it?

EMDR is an acronym that stands for “Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing”.  It is an evidence based, empirically proven technique for addressing all manner of emotional trauma and upset. 

Do any of you out there remember the 1993 movie starring Bill Murray that involved a man living the same day over and over and over again?  He kept making the same mistakes, encountering the same problems and ending up the same way until he finally figured out how to live in a better way, differently than he had in the past.  Only then, was he allowed to move on to the next day of his life.

Yup.  The first thing I thought when I took a look again at the topics of my last SNAP Milton column was, “Damn that stuff is hard to deal with.”

Every week folks come into my office with these very issues, at their wits’ end about how to untangle the mess they have either created or fallen into (or perhaps a little of both).

Finding a therapist is not always easy.  There are so many choices and it can be confusing.  I wrote this column for Snap Milton (www.snapmilton.com), to try to address some of the issues and give clear information.  Enjoy.

Dear Susan,

This month’s column in Snap (www.snapmilton.com) deals with early signs of anorexia and the difficulty people experience when dealing with chronic fatigue or other chronic illness.  If there is a theme that connects both posts, it’s the element of care taking. 

Ah, the inaugural post, so full of promise and a future of blogs to come.

My name is Susan Tarshis and I am, amongst many other interesting things, a psychotherapist who has a practice in Milton, Ontario, Canada.  This is my professional blog and I have some high hopes for it.